Sometimes it's not About the Food
![Grilled Croaker Grilled Croaker](https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb6b8638f-f1eb-4389-9086-0044cca5f5c7_610x457.jpeg)
The whole fish, and nothing but the fish.
Some days, it's about the process. The First Reader and I had a very nice lunch-fest yesterday at Yung's Café in Fairborn, our favorite Korean restaurant. I ordered the grilled croaker, which was a thing of beauty. Normally we chat while we are eating, but this was a remarkably silent meal for us, because I was concentrating on deconstructing a whole fish with chopsticks only, and avoiding most of the bones. It was delicious, but a process.
![Yung's Cafe Yung's Cafe](https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F7a069a02-d238-40e4-abcd-761226ca2366_610x457.jpeg)
The feast, which is surprisingly affordable for being copious and beautiful food.
Eating the fish reminded me of another fishy meal, one that was a whole day in the making. It started with lunchtime at the creek, eating hotdogs and marshmallows over a campfire, and ended with a fish-fry in a big cast-iron skillet. Some meals aren't about the food, they are about the process, and the memories, and knowing that it happened once, and will never happen again. A singularity of a meal.
![campfire cooking campfire cooking](https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F26e5b8de-df12-4ed3-a7e9-d2cfa8aebe52_610x457.jpeg)
Hotdog on a stick, over an open fire. Ambrosia!
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sticks: man's first cooking utensils.
![outdoor food outdoor food](https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa429e985-b0ff-419e-81e3-01bde3fd5906_610x439.jpeg)
Marshmallows! Toasty goodness.
![fishing fishing](https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2785d297-0b74-4571-a021-b5e88f4237ee_610x813.jpeg)
The fisherman!
![Fishing Fishing](https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F53054d33-a693-47d7-98b3-7de2fa9677ef_610x978.jpeg)
Perch, trout, pickerel, all pretty and slimy.
![fish fry fish fry](https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Faae53905-b14c-463f-8d5d-5a561a2f8e3e_610x457.jpeg)
Fish fry up! For scale, that's a 14 inch cast iron skillet.
![kids fishing kids fishing](https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F069ef1b3-2e95-4cf7-9c0d-ae2ad74351b7_571x711.jpeg)
Fishie!